Are You Still Clearing Your Plate? It Might Be Time to Change the Narrative

Still clearing your plate out of habit? Discover why it’s time to rethink that rule and how small shifts can support energy, digestion & freedom.

Last week’s blog on “Why I’m Not Counting Calories Again” sparked some brilliant conversations, and I’m so glad it resonated with so many of you. It confirmed what I see time and again in clinic: we’re craving a new way to think about food, one that’s less about guilt, numbers, and restriction, and more about freedom, self-awareness, and long-term energy.

So this week, I want to keep the momentum going by tackling another deeply ingrained habit many of us grew up with: the idea that we must always finish everything on our plate.

Sound familiar?

It might take you right back to childhood, sitting at the dinner table being told you couldn’t leave until you’d eaten every last bite. Maybe your parents said something like, “There are starving children elsewhere,” so wasting food wasn’t an option. It came from a place of care, of course. But that narrative, when internalised and carried into adulthood, can cause more harm than we realise.

In my clinic, I hear this mindset time and again. It’s one of those invisible rules that quietly shape our eating behaviours long after we’ve left the family dinner table. And if we’re being honest, many of us are still operating from that programming—clearing the plate even when we’re full, eating mindlessly, or feeling guilty for leaving food uneaten.

It’s time to question it. Because what served us (or our parents) in a post-war era of scarcity isn’t necessarily serving our bodies or our energy levels today.

Why Clearing Your Plate Might Be Undermining Your Health

Here’s the thing: continuing to eat when you're full can lead to a range of symptoms I regularly see in clinic, bloating, sluggishness, weight gain, reflux, and even fatigue.

I’m seeing more clients than ever struggling with reflux and relying on medications like PPIs (proton pump inhibitors). And while these can be necessary in the short term, long-term use can disrupt digestion and nutrient absorption. I’ve recently completed additional training in this area because it’s becoming so common, but that’s a blog post for another day.

Right now, I want to focus on what we can control and that starts with how we approach mealtimes.

Let's Talk About Plate Size

Did you know that the average plate size has increased significantly over the past 50 years?

Research shows that plate diameters in the 1950s were around 9 inches. Today, the average plate is 11–12 inches. That might not sound like much, but when you scale up what goes on the plate, it’s easy to see how we end up eating more than we need often without realising it.

Our brains are wired to respond to visual cues. A full plate looks satisfying. But if the plate itself has grown, our portion sizes probably have, too. Without tuning in to our body’s signals, we end up eating to the size of the plate, not to our level of hunger.

And then we wonder why we feel overstuffed or sluggish afterwards.

We’ve Forgotten How to Eat Slowly

In our fast-paced world, we rarely take time to sit down and eat without distraction. According to a recent UK survey, only around one in five families eat meals together at the table every day, with many opting for the sofa, screens, or on-the-go snacks.

Eating in a rush or while distracted prevents us from noticing when we’re full. We override our natural satiety signals. It takes around 20 minutes for the brain to register fullness, so if you’re finished in under ten, it’s easy to overshoot.

And that’s where simple habits can make a big difference.

Small Shifts That Can Help

This isn’t about rigid rules or food guilt. It’s about reconnecting with your body and being kind to it. Here are some practical tips we explored during the Spring Reset Retreat that you can try right away:

Use a smaller plate
Try swapping your usual dinner plate for a side plate or a bowl. It’s a subtle trick, but it can make a big difference to portion control without feeling like you’re eating less.
Start with less, go back for seconds if needed
Serving yourself a smaller portion and then checking in with your body before going back for more helps reset your hunger cues.
Chew slowly and mindfully
Digestion starts in the mouth. Chewing thoroughly not only helps your body break down food but gives your brain time to catch up and signal when you're satisfied.
Put your cutlery down between bites
This one might sound simple, but it’s surprisingly effective. Pausing between bites creates space for awareness, calm, and better digestion.
Create a calm mealtime environment
Even if it’s just a ten-minute lunch break, try to eat at a table, away from your phone or laptop. Light a candle, play soft music, or simply take a breath before your first bite.

What This Looks Like in Real Life

I worked with a client recently who realised she’d been finishing everything on her plate out of habit, not hunger. She often felt bloated and tired after meals, blaming the food itself. But once we explored portion sizes and slowed her pace of eating, she noticed a big shift not just in digestion but in energy and how in control she felt around food.

Another client shared how liberating it felt to give herself permission to leave food. “I didn’t grow up with that,” she said. “It feels rebellious, but in a good way.” And honestly? That sums it up beautifully.

We’re not talking about wastefulness. We’re talking about awareness. About trusting your body over outdated rules.

A Note on Compassion and Context

Now, I want to acknowledge something important: for many of us, food waste is a sensitive topic. Especially if you were raised in a household where meals were hard-earned or food insecurity was part of your story.

That’s why this conversation needs compassion.

It’s okay to feel conflicted. You can still honour where you’ve come from and choose a different pattern going forward, one that serves your health, your energy, and your relationship with food.

And if you’re a parent? This is a beautiful opportunity to model something different for the next generation. Rather than “finish everything,” how about asking, “Are you still hungry?” or “How does your tummy feel?”

Change the Narrative and Reclaim Your Energy

Changing a lifetime habit isn’t about willpower, it’s about awareness. It’s about choosing presence over programming, and long-term wellbeing over short-term rules.

If you’ve been conditioned to always clean your plate, I invite you to pause and ask yourself: Am I still hungry? Am I eating because I want to, or because I feel I should?

That simple shift in awareness can unlock a more nourishing, intuitive, and empowering way to eat.

You deserve to feel good after meals, not bloated, tired, or guilty. And you have the power to change how you nourish yourself, starting with the next plate.

Need support to build new habits around food and energy?
If you’re ready to ditch the unhelpful rules and feel more in control of your health, my Wellbeing Kickstart and Boost Programme are here to help. You’ll get personalised advice, real-life strategies, and compassionate support to help you thrive, without restriction or overwhelm.

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About Claire
Claire Thomas is a Nutritional Therapist, NLP Practitioner, and Phlebotomist with a background in Children’s Nursing. She specialises in supporting ambitious women who feel exhausted, burnt out, or stuck in survival mode. Through personalised nutrition, mindset coaching, and functional testing, Claire helps her clients increase their energy levels, find clarity, and feel like themselves again. Based in Tiverton, Devon, she works both in-person and online through her clinic, Nourish to Soar.